The "Wait"

As a (1) girl, (2) blonde, and (3) college student, it's pretty much assumed that having sex is a normal thing to be doing. The TV's, music, movies, and society are all screaming "Sex is good!", but God is whispering "Wait." With all of this screaming going on externally, it gets pretty hard to hear God's soft voice.

Let''s hit my background for just a second: I was raised by divorced parents who didn't agree on much, but- thankfully- they both strongly encouraged the "wait until marriage" lesson from the Bible. As a child, I romanticized the "honeymoon" night. The First Time You Have Sex, lights dim, husband and wife, intimate for the first time in their lives. But, all of a sudden, Society and Media were teaching me something else. "Sexy, dirty, and as often as you can get it" seemed to be the new way to go. Overnight, the struggle between God and Modern-Day clashed.

 For years now, I have struggled between the two versions of the way sex should be. Sure, you want to honor God and abstain from sex. And you even think that you can- until the first temptation. It's 'God's Way' until you two are alone, and then you begin to justify yourselves. "They won't love me unless I do this", "Sex can't be that bad, everyone else does it!", "Nobody is a virgin passed the age of 20", and my favorite, "God wrote the Bible, like, 10 million years ago! He didn't write it for 2015. He had no idea that sex would be common and normal to do." Well, actually... He did. And He expects more from us.

 (Disclaimer: I have never had sex, nor ever really been close, but that doesn't mean that the temptation isn't there. I am a virgin, but trust me, I have no room to be judging anyone who can't say the same.)

As my parents raised me in purity, they also consequently scared me out of having sex. Honestly, sex makes me uncomfortable. It seems gross, and disgusting, and unnecessary. But, that is not what God intended either. For a while, I have struggled with the idea of sex, God, and their correlation. And I know I can't be the only one. In today's world, it is unheard of to be a virgin. It's embarrassing to admit it, and a hurtful label placed on people. Sex causes a lot of hurt and deviance in Christians. 

BUT: God says "Flee from sexual immorality" (1 Corinthians 6:18), and "If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth." (Colossians 3:1-2). Don't be deceived, God says many more things on this subject: but ultimately they all share the same message: Glorify God in your actions, abstain from sexual immorality and only be intimate with your one and only husband/wife. 

God does not promise an easy life on this Earth as a Christian, but the rewards he promises are worth-while. Hang in there. Trust me, God has your best interests at heart and there is a reason He tells us to wait. 

❤️sSm

(PS this tok a lot for me to put on the internet and I would love to talk to anybody who reads this about anything.)